Lately, I’ve been watching these murder shows i.e. “I solved a murder,” and “The first 48 hours.” Why? Simply due to boredom and that I didn’t really have much going on at that time of my life. I don’t know what intrigued me to start watching these shows, as I have never done so in the first place, but something about those shows just draws me back even though they are reruns.
Anyways, during a commercial of one of the shows listed above that I was watching, an elderly woman asks a question that even I can answer1 . She asks “How do you forgive someone who has hit your husband over the head with a hatchet?” Now, years ago, I probably would have thought exactly like her, but I don’t think that way anymore. I don’t think how you can not forgive someone for doing something so ridiculous, or stupid, or evil. Why would you NOT want to forgive them? The answer is quite simple.
The answer is Peace of mind.
But Jamie, I like holding grudges. It keeps me going and I get a ‘high’ from it.
That’s all fine and dandy, but what about the stress killing your body, mind, and soul? Do you want that to die just because of your egotistical and fixed mindset ways? Or would you rather forgive but not forget what happened? I choose the latter. I’d rather forgive the person who has hurt me than allow the negativity eat at me and allow that stress to do the same. Allowing yourself to actually forgive someone for doing something so stupid is hard to do, sure, but it can also relieve a LOT of stress from your body, mind, and soul, which is why I don’t understand half of the haters that I have who hate me can’t let something that happened between us go or accept an apology. They’d rather choose to keep holding onto that grudge than to forgive and not make the mistake again. I guess to them that’s allowing them to not ever make the mistake again? Who knows? Then again, we are all different and think differently.
Forgiveness is a funny thing that I guess balances out life? Like I stated before, I’d rather forgive, but NOT forget. This will allow me to have a peace of mind and stress free body that will live longer compared to those that chooses to hold onto the stress. Then again, this is just my observation.
- Please note, not everyone will think like I do, but this answer is just from personal experiences. ↩